Buy your child memberships, especially in organizations that you belong to
Nothing works so well at teaching your child how highly you think of her as buying her a membership in the club or organization to which you belong. Of course, this may not always be possible, but wherever it is possible, sign your kids up too. Let’s say you belong to a local swim club or a health and fitness center. Is your child a member? Even if you don’t have primary custody, have you signed your child up for the club or the center?
You might be surprised to learn how much goodwill you can establish by getting your son or daughter a membership card for an organization which you already belong to. It tells them that you think they’re important enough to join your club. It tells them that you think highly enough of them to endorse their membership. And it builds the links that your children may have with you, your home, and your community.
Many organizations offer free or discounted memberships for kids, or they offer a children’s membership program. Other organizations may have to be convinced to recognize a child as a member, but they are often willing to do so. Community organizations, recreational facilities, book clubs, ski clubs, hunting and camping clubs, hiking and biking clubs, and spiritual groups are all examples of adult groups that may admit children as members too, and through which you can strengthen your custody case.